Sunday, January 25, 2015

Happy Belated Birthday #3

Emma Marie Hartmann Ronca
18 Jan 1919 to 15 Jan 2004


This is my Aunt Em she was my favorite Aunt.  
When I was younger she took me to the Bronx Zoo and to Radio City Music Hall and we did all kinds of fun things.  I can remember waiting for her as she walled from the bus stop to our home in Whitestone, Queens, New York.  


She was single for a while and married when she was 36, so I lucked out on having some of her attention.  I didn't go to her wedding my parents thought I was too young, and I had to stay at a neighbors home, well I was only 7.  I wish she was still around to tell me more of the family stories my Dad would never tell me.  She always told me she loved both of my mothers without hesitation, she thought they were both wonderful women.  
So was my aunt, she was spunky, independent, kind and honest.  
When I was complaining to her about some of the sass and issues I was having with the big kids, she told me I was a sassy lass myself.  Which is true, but I sometimes forget that. 


Here is Aunt Em at her 80th birthday with 2 of her three sons. 
Happy Birthday Aunt Em, miss ya.
This is the birthday I really wanted to remember but forgot to add her to my to do list before her birthday, than I was too busy to write until now. 

Saturday, January 24, 2015

Happy Belated Birthday #2

I wasn't sure I wanted to do this birthday because he is still very much among the living.  So I want to respect his privacy.  He is the youngest of my big kids. 
Born 12 Jan in some year not to long ago a day after his grandpa William Francis Bowden.  

This is Kinsen V. Bowden


This was his picture when he was a Senior.  Handsome kid isn't he.  This was more than 10 years ago. 
I don't have a good recent picture. 
Of the three kids that came with my husband Richard.  He was the easy kid.  The peacemaker.  He is kind, thoughtful and sees things to do done and does them.  I always enjoy having him around. 
I wish him the best in life.   


Happy Belated Birthday

Well the best laid plans of men and mice can really get messed up.  Of course there was a little poor planning (I forgot to mark my calender to do these tasks) and a little indecision (should I really include or not). 

The first birthday I missed was Bill's.  I wasn't sure I wanted to include him because, well he isn't my blood line but he was a good man and I respected him a lot and liked him, so I am including him.  
That is the Dad in this picture and the little fellow in this picture is my husband.  


William Francis Bowden Jr.  
11 Jan 1921 to 24 Sept 2007


I forgot when this picture was taken and why and my husband isn't hear to ask.  By the time I meet him he was wearing gold rims.

I meet him after Richard and I had been dating for awhile.  He was a kind, patient, giving man.  Strong in his faith and an example of being faithful to the end.  He wanted the best for his children.  He took great care of his wife when she was dying in 2005 with the help of his daughters and granddaughters.  

Wednesday, January 7, 2015

Happy Birthday,Annette!

One of the bloggers I follow does this really cool thing where she wishes her ancestors Happy Birthday or remembers someone on an anniversary.  I felt it was a good idea and I had wanted to try it two years ago.   Well two special girls came to live with me and I have been busy.  This year I decided to try my hand at it.  After all I need to make time for my interests.  

So today, the 7th of January 1916 my Mom, Annette Carolyna Corkish was born.  Her parents were Alfred B. Corkish and Mildred E. Swan.  She was born on Nantucket Island the youngest of six children.  

I don't know much about her early life.
She studied nursing in Boston and became an Army nurse in the Pacific at the end of WWII.  After the war she moved to NYC and lived with a sister.  She meet and married my Dad.
Family lore has it she was one of the nurses who cared for my mother when she was dying of Breast Cancer.   
She was a strong women to take on my Dad and me, a 16 month old when they married. 

Annette on her Wedding Day

She definitively was pretty!
She also did a good job of taking care of me and my three half brothers she had with my Dad.  Unfortunately she also died too young from Colon Cancer in 1965 a week before my 17th birthday.   

She never wanted me to be a nurse, she told me the work was hard and boy she was right.  I never regretted my decision to be a nurse and I am sure is proud of the good career I had as a nurse. 

Happy 99th Birthday!

I think of you often and I am glad you were a part of my life.


Saturday, December 27, 2014

Genealogy Do Over

Boy this has been a hard decision.  
I know I need to do a do over, to make sure everything is in order and document my research better.  You know get those sources where they need to be.  And actually do those research logs. 
So that part wasn't hard.  
The hard part was making the commitment.  Things are busy at my house with two little girls who need a lot of attention.  So I have a fear that I will fall behind and not keep up.  But wait this is my 
Do-Over so I don't have to keep the same schedule so what if it take me two or three weeks to do each step what difference does it make, none.  The important part will be doing the steps.
   I need to make time to do this for myself and for others who will pick up where I leave off.  
Hopefully, there will be someone who will 
want to pick up were I leave off. 
So I will be participating in GeneaBlogers Genealogy Do Over.
Wish me luck!


The other thing I wanted to do this year was recognize my ancestors and family members on their birthdays or anniversaries and add little stories about each person on my family tree.  I only have 155 people on my tree.  I was hoping this would also help me get back into doing my genealogy.  So yesterday I printed off a calendar list from my Legacy genealogy program.  Right away I noticed something that I can fix.  At the top of several months there are people or events without dates, So I have already found information that is missing and needs to be found.  
 Each month has 6 to 8 people who have birthdays or anniversary.  I think this will really help be get interested in doing my genealogy again.  I mean after all the girls are in school 6 hours a day. I can crave some time out of the day for me and genealogy.  

Hear is to a new, exciting and busy New Year with good results!
Wishing you all success in 2015!


Monday, September 29, 2014

Exciting News

I haven't fallen off the edge of the world, 
I have just been busy. 

The big news is the adoption is final.  



Here we are in front of the court house just after the adoption was final.  It was a bit of an emotional day, especially for the girls.  They felt the loss of their family and there name.  It was exciting for us and for one moment it was overwhelming for me as it hit me this is real and forever.  

They are sweet, active, affectionate, fun, beautiful girls.  
They have blessed our lives.  



Here are some of the family members that came to court and supported our special occasion.  As you can see we were all excited. 

So how did this all come about, what is the story behind this adoption.  
I can remember when I applied for Social Security, how good I felt, it was amazing.  I felt this must be the right time for me to retire. I had a date picked out, it would be after a big project at work and it would be the Friday before Thanksgiving.  So I would have all of the Holidays off, a stress free Holiday Season.  Beautiful!

On November 15, 2012 my former sister in law, the grandmother of the girls called me at work and asked if I could take her grand babies.  This was the day before I retired.  I had plans to teach more quilting and to do a mission at the Mesa Family Search Library. I hadn't made any commitments yet since it was so close to the Holidays.  I had thought about sending my papers in for the mission but a still small voice told me to wait. So, I was just looking forward to enjoying the Holidays without working.  I had a list of quilts I wanted to finish.  Guess what they still aren't finished.
  
While I spoke with their Nana, I had the distinct impression that I had to say yes.  The timing was too good for the Lord's hands not to have been in the situation.  He was mindful of these little girls and He wanted them with us.  Nana told me we were the only stable family she knew who could take the girls.  She couldn't because she works and helps an elderly aunt and had a sick mother in another state, plus she lives in California. 

So on my last day of work I left work at 2 PM and I left CPS at 3:30 PM with 2 beautiful girls.  They went with us to my retirement party; we rode on the light rail and went to the Spaghetti Factory in Phoenix for dinner. 


Here is the little one, or "Little Bit" she was age 7.

Here is the bigger one, or "Bigger Bit" age 9.  These are the pictures they picked out for their scrapbooks.  There are other pictures of them laughing with my friends.  Everyone made them feel welcomed.  My friends are good that way.




That night the "Little Bit" came to me, took my face in her two little hands and told me I was perfect.  If that doesn't melt your heart nothing will.  It had to be the sweetest thing I had ever experienced. 


They took over my planned guest room.  So the quilt I was making for that double bed is not finished.
On Saturday we had to go buy dresses and Sunday shoes so they could go to church on Sunday.  They had never gone to church before so this was a big culture shock for them.  



At first we thought it was going to be a short term like a few months maybe six but as the months passed it became obvious that it was going to be more long term but still not permanent. 

In March of 2013 we began classes to become licensed foster parents.  That is 3 hours once a week for 11 weeks.  What an education.  We were blessed with good friends from church who watched the kids for us for free so we could attend the classes. 
Another couple we knew, who had had foster kids gave us twin beds for the girls. Two of the largest tender mercies we had on this journey.  Another large tender mercy was fun kids who lived by us, just the right age for our girls.  Built in friends what a blessing.

There also many small tender mercies, like I learned to sleep with a night light on in every room of the house and light shining into my bedroom from these lights.  I like it dark when I sleep. When my big kids where home and were up to all hours of the night the light would drive me crazy but not for these little ones, who needed to feel secure. 

We became licensed in July after many home inspections and lots of paper work.  Everything that is labeled keep out of the reach of children are locked up in cabinets. We had to make many changes in our home to become licensed. All worth it.

By November of 2013 we knew the rights of the mother were going to be terminated and the father's would be terminated a few months later.  
I can never explain how hard it is to watch children being heart broken by the actions of their parents.  The pain is raw and intense for them and for me.  There were times I came up with answers to their questions about such things in a way that was much better than I would normally reply.  The Lord has helped me say some really cool things to help them at the right time.   Don't get me wrong I am not perfect but I have received lots of help from above. 


The picture on the right was taken in January of 2013, I made those little quilts and pillows for their doll beds.  They helped with the quilting.  The one on the left was taken in February of 2014.  Little Bit had grown three inches in a year, Bigger Bit had grown two inches in a little more than a year, but she has grown a lot in these last couple of months. 

We didn't think very long on if we should adopt the girls, we knew it was the right thing to do.  We were even encouraged by one person at the licensing agency to let another family adopt them and be their grandparents.  It did not feel right.  We also knew that another big change for them could set them back another year developmentally and we didn't want that for the girls.  I also knew spiritually that these girls were going to be mine. That feeling has helped me get through some very tough moments.  Let's face it, raising kids isn't easy and I am not as young as I was the first time around. I have been blessed with health and energy to care for these girls.  I miss some things but they are worth it. The only time I start to worry is when I think about how old I am going to be when they graduate from high school.  But I remind myself, Heavenly Father made this happen, this is my right place to be and the right thing to be doing, so he will get me through it. 

Things move slowly with the court but by April of 2014 we were going to adopt the girls.   It was final on September 18th. 

We have had lots of fun things happening over the last 22 months, like baby teeth falling out and the tooth fairy coming, and even once she forgot to come and came a day late.  One tooth was swallowed when it fell out while eating corn on the cob.  That was a real concern if the tooth fairy was going to come and the tooth fairy did come.  Little Bit learned to ride a two wheel bike.  Two trips to California.  The first time seeing the ocean and playing in the waves.  Horseback riding lessons for Bigger Bit with grant money for foster kids. Ballet lessons for Little Bit.  Some really fun chalk art in our drive way.  Lots of hugs and kisses.  Lots of not going to bed on time, that's not so fun but so part of children.  That first Christmas was magical, they loved all my pretty decorations and I told them not to worry Santa knew where they were.  And when they woke up and saw Santa had been here.  Oh it was wonderful.  The second Christmas was fun as the girls would say, I remember this when they pulled out the decorations. Going Trick or Treating again.  

Well that pretty much tells the story, and what a story it is. 

You will hear and see more about them now. 
I love my beautiful little girls. 


Tuesday, July 22, 2014

I Made History

I did participate in this worldwide event. 
 
A fun experience I had while indexing was I indexed the obituary of E. B. white, the author of Stuart Little and Charlotte's web.  It was a very lengthy obituary.  It spoke about how he didn't like wasted or extra words and I kept thinking he would not like this obituary.
 
Here are the results of this event.
 You We set a record for the greatest number of indexing participants in a single day. A total of 66,511 volunteers participated and more than 5.7 million records were indexed! Share this badge with your friends to let them know you made history.
 
Thank you to everyone who joined in the worldwide indexing event! You set a record for the greatest number of indexing participants in a single day. A total of 66,511 volunteers participated and more than 5.7 million records were indexed! Share this badge with your friends to let them know you made history.

We want to hear about your experience! Submit your stories to fsindexing@familysearch.org.
Now to keep on indexing a little every week. I haven't done a lot since my two foster girls moved in on November 16, 2012.  I was asked by their grandmother to take them in the day before I retired.  On the day I retired I left work at 2PM and I had them by 330PM.  They our great nieces and sweet busy girls.  Soon we will be adopting them and then I will share more. 
 

Sunday, April 20, 2014

My Life Story

Click here to see what I have been doing with My Life Story book.   You will see my binder cover and spine as well as my divider pages.  Oh here is a picture to peak your curiosity.
 
 
Enjoy!
Happy Easter!